Monthly Archives: May 2015

You Are the Cup!

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Every so often someone asks the question: “Is your cup half full or half empty?” Have you asked that question or have you been asked that question?

I find myself asking the question especially when someone is a chronic complainer. Something ALWYS seems to be wrong; it’s too hot, it’s too cold, or somewhere in between.

The premise is that when the cup is half full the expectation of its becoming full is a positive one. When the cup is full, “everything will be alright”.

The opposing premise is that when the cup is half empty, something is lacking and even if it were to become full, the result would not necessarily be positive.

Is it possible to find a middle ground? What is the determining factor that makes the cup seem half full or half empty?

In my experience as a coach I have found that attitude is a huge factor in how this dilemma is perceived. Some think that if you look at the half-filled cup with a positive attitude the results of filling it will be positive. To them the same holds true for the half-empty cup. Both points of view have the same focus—they are focusing on the contents of the cop.

What if the focus were to shift?

What if the focus were on the CUP instead of its contents? What if the PERSON were the cup? What if YOU were the cup?

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Do You Need Instant Gratification?

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In your experience, have you found that most people adopt certain behaviors because of different circumstances or predispositions? One such predisposition is a lack of patience. Have you also found that some people will continue to pursue a futile way of doing things that do not produce any results because they don’t have the patience to see it through by taking another path? Some people refer to this as “insanity”.

In my practice as a coach I have been asked many times: “Florette, of all the various types of coaching, why on earth would you choose Personal Development? There is no gratification in that!” Au contraire! There certainly is!

It is true that in studying to be a coach one is exposed to different coaching genre. I had the choice of being a Life Coach, a Relationship Coach, a Health Coach, and even a Spiritual Coach. I’m certified for each of them. So why on earth did I choose Personal Development? I’ll tell you.

I chose this because it’s the one “calling” in which I relate to people and they relate to me. I remember a time in my life when I was never on time and nothing in my day was complete. I remember how being that way made me feel. I meet many potential clients who feel the same way. I also remember the “breakthrough” I had when something suddenly “snapped” and I finally “got it!” That was the biggest thrill for me! Something FINALLY made sense!

I can relate to that feeling in my clients. When they tell me “I can’t do this!” and I tell them “Yes you can! I’ll show you how!”, I also revel in their thrill when they finally “get it”! It’s one thing to be able to say as a coach that I’ve “been there and done that”; it’s quite another thing to recognize yourself as the “bridge” that connects where a person “was” in life to what they have achieved today.

Yes, some people do need instant gratification. They thrive on it. Instead of forcing my clients to wait until close to the end of my coaching program How to Master Your Life—One Step at a Time in order to achieve that sense of accomplishment, I build it into each of my eight modules.

If you can relate to any of the above, please book a 30-minute Discovery/strategy session with me. Please visit http://coachflo.co/your-questions-answered/. You will be able to schedule an appointment with me that is convenient to you. I’m looking forward to speaking with you and helping you to identify and overcome the obstacles preventing you from living your life by DESIGN. You will also get an idea of how to achieve instant gratification while learning to overcome these obstacles.

To your success!

Are You Ready When You Show Up?

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On the surface this seems like a very odd question. I can almost hear you saying “Of course! What do you mean? Where are you going with this?”

Calm down, please, let me explain.

Have you ever been to a scheduled meeting where there’s always that ONE person who is never prepared? In fact they don’t have a clue as to what the agenda is. Do you find that frustrating and a colossal waste of your time? Or how about the chronic late-comer who never has his/her figures ready on time so you can compile the monthly report? Was that person ready when they showed up for work?

While showing up may be a good thing, in itself it’s not enough. There is a difference between showing up at work and showing up for work. You can show up at work and don’t have a clue as to how the day will unfold. However, if you show up ready for work you know exactly what is going to happen and when. You know which tasks are your responsibility, which tasks are to be delegated and to whom. If there is a meeting or other event that day, you are prepared. At the end of the day, you have a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

Life follows the same pattern; yet very few are ready when they show up for life. When you awaken each morning, do you plan your day? Or do you just let the day happen? If you don’t follow your own plans, you will invariably be following someone else’s. When that happens you find yourself chasing one crisis after another, which oftentimes have nothing to do with you. At the end of the day you feel unfulfilled, frustrated and even angry.

If that has been happening to you it’s time to break the cycle. My latest course: “How to Master Your Life—One Step at a Time” is structured to provide you with a progressive blueprint to show you the relationship between your plans, your schedule and your goals, both long-, short-, and interim-term ones.

Most likely you are fed up with a chaotic existence. If that is so, I know how you feel. I once felt the same way. If managing your time and achieving your goals are challenging for you, I will show you how to overcome these challenges while allowing you more free time with your friends and family with the ultimate outcome of simplifying your life and feeling less stressed. I’ll also show you how you can provide the incentive of rewarding yourself along the way. We know that as instant gratification!

Start the process by scheduling a paid 30-minute discovery strategy session with me. Please visit: http://coachflo.co/your-questions-answered/. I look forward to speaking with you.

To your success!

CoachFlo
Personal Development Coach
http://coachflo.co